Throughout middle school, you will continually face times of "who am I" and "is this who I want to be." A lot of girls consider changing their personality and style and looks to 'fit in' or 'be cool.' The problems in the aforementioned statement is, 'changing' and 'to be cool.' Firstly, never 'change' because you want to be cool. You should only 'change' yourself for you - not anyone else. Secondly, NEVER CHANGE yourself. You were born with a spectacularly unique personality that has both flaws and excellence. Instead, IMPROVE it. Improving yourself allows you to mature and grow as a person. Changing is both fake and impossible. In other terms, don't try to change yourself - try to improve.
If you are currently going through a stage of feeling of not liking who you are, contemplate why you are feeling that way. Firstly, try to identify who you think you are right now. I recommend thinking of four characteristics (good and bad) that you feel describes you. Then, think of four characteristics that your close friends would use to describe your personality. It is important to do this because our peers's perspectives on us are purely defined on our actions and reactions in situations which is unlike our opinions on ourselves. Lastly, think about who you want to be in the future. It is important, at this step, to not compare yourself to your peers or celebrities. Instead, think about characteristics you would like to have or grow - if you have a short temper, you may want to become a calmer person.
Once you have found characteristics that you would like to have in the future, put the thoughts to action! Come up with a plan to become that future you. If you want to become friendly, try to hold the door open and say 'hi' to everyone you meet. Improving isn't impossible.
Bye for now,
Cara
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